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Self Reliance

Sunday, July 25th, 2010

Thanks for you patience the last few weeks.  We had a death in the family and after the unexpected travel it took me a while to get organized.

Team Work is important and useful, but sometimes the only person your child will have to rely on is herself.  Sometimes the best person to do the job is your child; teaching her how to get it done on her own will help her on the field, in school, and later in life.  We’ve all heard the saying, if you want something done right you have to do it yourself.  I usually think of that saying to mean that someone else messed up, but if we choose to look at it in a positive light, it really has more to do with your personal ability to do something well.

There are moments in life where your child will have to make a decision, maybe a split second one, about how to handle a situation.  She may be able to look for help from a teammate, schoolmate, or co-worker, but sometimes no one is around who can or will help.  In those moments she needs to believe that she can get the job done herself and act without hesitation. In some cases, even a moment’s hesitation or a look for help at the wrong time can be the difference between success and failure.   

Failure to rely on herself is most likely the result of lack of confidence, or possibly a little laziness.   Everyone suffers from lack of confidence now and again, but making it a habit can be costly. 

I had a costly lapse of confidence during a road race in 2004. The bike race was part of a stage race.  A stage race is a several day race.  Each day there is a new race and the total time of that day’s race is added to the previous day’s total time. The winner is the cyclist who, when the last race has been finished, has completed all of the racing in the least amount of time.  So, you can win a stage of the stage race and not win the overall race.  I was having a fantastic stage race and was sitting fairly high in the overall.  On a climb several of the other highly ranked girls attacked the group and opened up a gap between themselves and the rest of us.  I was chasing them down, gaining slowly and dragging everyone else in my group along behind me.  I was tired and had a little lap in confidence.  I realized other riders were behind me and I thought I’d turn to them for help.  I pulled off to the side and the girl behind me took her turn at front, but she was going slower and we lost momentum.  By the time I realized we were slowing down it was too late.  I surged around her and continued my chase, but by that time the women had too big of a gap and we never caught them.  At the end of the stage I moved down in the overall standings and wasn’t able to gain the time back during the rest of the stage race.

I still regret my moment of hesitation, but while it was a hard lesson, it was also a good lesson.  One that I hope will come in handy the next time I need to rely on myself.  Talk with your child about her abilities and help her have confidence in them.  Let her know that there will be times when she is best off doing something by herself and when that time comes, she’ll be ready.

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What’s Your Body Telling You! Sports Teach Self Awareness.

Tuesday, June 22nd, 2010

Try This At Home…………………………

Have your child keep a training journal and write down his workouts each day, including specifics like number of repetitions, length of time, etc.  Have him write down how he felt, what he ate before hand and during, how much sleep he got the night before and what kind of recovery he did afterward.  It doesn’t have to be in complete sentences, but it is helpful if he follows the same format every day.  That way he can easily go back and skim it to find the information he needs.  After a few weeks of keeping a journal sit down with him and look for patterns and places where he can make some improvements.

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Sports make young athletes in tune with their bodies.  They learn the difference between good hurt, like pushing yourself to go a little bit harder, and bad hurt, like an injury.  They learn what different heart rates feel like and approximately how long they can go at that heart rate.   They know what it feels like when they are dehydrated or about to bonk from lack of food, and female athletes learn how their body changes with their menstrual cycle. 

Everyone’s different, and while there are some general rules, the best way for your child to learn about his body is to work out a lot and practice paying attention.  Keeping a journal will help, but your child should start putting a few things together even if he isn’t paying close attention. 

We’re starting potty training with our son and we have him watch Elmo Potty Time.  In the video there is a little cartoon about a large gorilla that listens to what his body tells him and acts accordingly.  He’s hungry so he eats, he’s thirsty so he drinks and well, he has to go to the bathroom too.  It’s kind of funny, but it’s a good reminder for all of us, even if we are potty trained.  As an athlete I learned to listen to my body and how to get the most out of my body.  I also developed ways to proactively stave off and deal with fatigue, cramping, muscle soreness, saddle sores, etc.

Here are a few of my rules and favorite tricks that helped me perform at my best. 

Eat Every Hour

If your son participates in an endurance sport or has games or tournaments that last for a prolonged period of time, he needs to eat before he gets hungry.  If he’s hungry, it’s too late.  He should eat something every hour; even if it is just a gel or something else small.  It’s best your child try out the particular food in training so he knows if he will have an adverse reaction to it.  Never have your child try anything for the first time the day of a competition.

Drink at least a bottle an hour

Just like with food, if your child is feeling thirsty, he has waited too long to drink.  Staying hydrated is vital.  During intense, constant exercise your child should drink approximately a water bottle an hour.  (Electrolyte drinks are ideal) If the workout or competition is an hour or less, consuming less water isn’t nearly as big of a deal.  Many athletes compete for an hour or less with no water; your child just needs to make sure he is hydrated when he starts out and be vigilant about replacing lost fluids afterward.

You make good gains when you train tired

If your child is always waiting until he feels good to train hard he won’t see big gains, and training by how he feels on any given day won’t give him big gains either.  Having an educated and knowledgeable coach lay out a very specific, day by day training plan and sticking to it, is how gains are made.  (You may find some decent free programs on line depending on your child’s specific sport.)  If your child can push through and train hard even when he is tired, he’ll make big physical gains once he’s gotten the appropriate rest.

Rest is really important

Some coaches get over zealous and drive their athletes into the ground.  Every athlete is different; some need more rest than others.  As noted above, your child has to learn to push through being tired, but getting good quality rest is vital to making gains as well.  Rest includes, time/days off from working out, naps and a good nights sleep.

Deal with an injury right away, don’t wait.

If something is hurting or nagging your child, get it checked out and taken care of right away.  If your child takes care of it quickly he may not even miss a practice, but if he waits the odds are it will become more serious and require time off.  Finding a chiropractor who specializes in Active Release Technique (ART), is what kept me healthy. 

Train with a heart rate monitor

It will help your child become very in tune with his body!  I’ll write a post on heart rate training in the next few weeks.

Be proactive with recovery

If your child is training right, he is going to be sore.  Taking an ice bath, getting regular chiropractic care from an Active Release Provider, getting or giving himself a light massage, getting proper nutrition and taking a natural anti-inflammatory like fish oil will help.  I’m not going to go into great detail on any of these, because most of these are their own blog post.  My pervious blog, Eating to Maximize Performance, touches on some of the nutritional aspects.  I’ll talk about Active Release Technique next week, and an ice bath, is just what it sounds like.

Fill the tub with cold water and dump in some ice, quite a lot.  Go ahead and sit in it or submerge you arm, shoulder etc. and stay there for fifteen to twenty minutes.  The first few minutes are a bit painful, but after that you’re child will go numb and when he’s done he’ll feel much better.  I love my ice baths!!!!!  I used to take ice baths every night I could during my stage races.  (A stage race is a multiple day bike road race.) Be aware, your child’s body temperature will drop significantly from the bath.  If he is only soaking his lower body, have him wear a sweatshirt and winter hat.  Drinking a warm drink afterward will also help him stop shivering. 

Being in tune with his body is a great asset for your child in and out of sport.  The sports and life style benefits are obvious, but it may also help him notice non sports related disease and illness early and allow him to effectively communicate all the potentially related issues or causes with you and his doctor, etc. 

Try doing the journal with your child for the next few weeks.  Maybe you’ll learn something new about yourself too!

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